A Wife's Obligations towards her Husband
واجبات الزوجة إتجاه زوجها
1) To acknowledge her husband's headship and management of the family's affairs in the best interest of the family. However, this headship does not involve absolute authority or superiority. The Quran says, which meaning of is translated as : “Men are in charge of women, because Allah has made the one of them to excel the other, and because they spend of their property (for the support of women).” (The Qur'an, An-Nisaa, 4:34). That is because men generally use their minds in dealing with events, in contrast to women whose conduct are predominated by emotions.
2) To obey him unless his orders or requests are in conflict with Allah's commands. When the Holy Prophet peace and pleassings of allah be upon him, was asked by Ayesha about the one who has the greatest claim on a woman's obedience, he peace and pleassings of allah be upon him, replied which meaning of is translated as : “Her husband. When asked who has the greatest claim on a man's obedience and kindness, he replied: His mother.” (Al-Hakim).
3) She should not refuse to go with her husband when he calls her to bed. The Holy Prophet peace and pleassings of allah be upon him, said which meaning of is translated as : “If a man calls his wife to his bed and she refuses, and he spend the night in anger with her, theangels will keep cursing her till the morning.” (Bukhari & Muslim).
4) She should not request things that are unaffordable by her husband. It is her duty to protect his money, children and reputation, not to go out of his house without his permission; and not to allow into his house anyone whom he dislikes. The Holy Prophet peace and pleassings of allah be upon him, said which meaning of is translated as: “The best of women is the one who pleases her husband when he looks at her, obeys him if he orders her, and preserves herself (her chastity) and his property in his absence.” (Tabarani).
Early Muslims used to put such instructions into effect. A woman gave this piece of advice to her daughter on her wedding day : "My daughter, you have parted with your home where you have grown up, to a man you have not been familiar with. So be his maid and he will be your slave. Observe for him ten qualities, and he will be a treasure for you : contentment, obedience, taking care of your beauty and pleasant smell, taking heed of the time of his sleep and meals, taking care of his money and children, refraining from disobedience to him, and keeping his secrets. Don't show pleasure to him when he is worried or grief when he is pleased.
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